Published: Thursday, April 10, 2014 by The Hilltop Newspaper
The term “cuffing” is a subliminal representation of handcuffs; when someone is cuffed, he or she is attached to another person, in other words dating. The youthful imaginary season, cuffing season, normally occurs during the cold winter months when individuals long to have a companion to help keep them warm. The warmer seasons are quickly approaching and this time of the year is known to
many youth as non-cuffing season; this season describes one where dating is no longer common. Individuals tend to break all commitments and attachments to their partners in order to enjoy the freedom of going out, meeting new people, and partaking in summer festivities with “no strings attached”. There are several ways to ensure that strings remain detached; below are the most common ways known to college students.
1. Keep it Clear!
When interacting with another person it is always important to keep the intentions of the relationship clear. If a relationship is not desired, say it!
Jasmine Jones, a graduate student studying interpersonal and intrapersonal communication, said “communication is the gateway to intimacy especially in relationships. Females long for effective communication in any relationship.”
If the intentions of the relationship are made clear at the beginning it will avoid any hurt feelings, mixed emotions, and unnecessary drama.
2. Refrain From Constant Communication!
“I do not communicate with any female every day for the mere fact that I don’t want them to get the wrong idea; I am not looking for a relationship,” said sophomore Greg Eason.
Constant communication will create emotions because individuals are getting to know each other more and more. Take breaks in
communication; don’t call or text every day. It is okay to check in on one another, but calling and texting everyday can send the wrong message.
3. No Sleepovers! Strictly Drive-By’s!
Too much time together can contribute to the gradual evolution of compassionate feelings for one another. It is okay to spend time together just not in intimate settings or for large periods of time; stopping by is always the best option.
“Spending time with someone is a form of intimacy, so I only allow people I’m serious with to stay over,” said senior Stephanie Awkard.
With that being said, if a serious relationship is not the intention, then staying the night may not be the best idea.
4. This is Confidential, Not Facebook Official!
“As a female, I notice social media post regarding relationships; I think it’s safe to say that most females do,” said freshman Dominique Murray.
Making reference, tweeting about, and posting pictures of a possible companion are all signs that two people are interested in each other. Some may take a simple tweet like “thinking about you” as “I want to be with you”, so to prevent all uncertainty just refrain from bringing the relationship to social media.